We go to a mechanic because that is what they do. We visit a dentist when we want to prevent tooth decay but I don’t know why, when it comes to your own wellbeing mates or family impress on us what we should or shouldn’t do and we then feel pressured to act on it. You’re friend at the bar or family member may have good intentions but they are not accountable for YOUR loss or embarrassment if you act under their opinion.
Lately I have watched people around me become stressed and anxious about acting on the opinions of others. Well what I say to those people ‘opinions are like assholes… everyone’s got one.’ So don’t shop with them!
I’ve witnessed this in many occasions from as simple as 2 friends shopping together and one telling the other that they should by that dress, or that vase would look great in your house. Imagine buying that vase or dress (which you’re not really into but your friend insisted on it) then living with it in your home long after they’ve gone home. Resentment of spending comes to play and then you ask yourself what YOU were thinking.
I prefer to shop alone….. For EVERYTHING. I find it best to put the blinkers on, be at one with my thoughts. Not having anyone in my ear about that guy that’s not calling back or whining about the cost of living. I need to focus! There have been occasions where I bump into friends or family and at that point the shopping stops and coffee must be had! After all sometimes you need a break.
Ok that did sound a little harsh. In all seriousness I dislike shopping immensely. Finding a car park, kids pushing prams instead of sitting in it, people drifting from side to side as they text, tweet or take a selfie, rude sales staff, even ruder customers, then if you’ve been there for ages we can count on the headaches and sore feet. So to me throwing in the added distraction of trying to catch up with your bestie isn’t going to help my cause. Instead meet up for breakfast or lunch and have a good catch-up without the distractions and yes! take a selfie together
Husbands and boyfriends are probably THE worst distraction. Guys never say, ‘lets go and have a browse at the shops’ its not really their thing, but most of them are willing to come along anyway. Do them a favour and leave them at home! Now days I see clumps of men taking up courtesy chairs looking bored out for their brain and usually surrounded by bags that their partner has dubbed them to carry. Meanwhile they’re sitting, waiting and judging. Silently calculating how much all this is costing, checking their watches and trying to figure out a way to hurry this process of browsing that is currently keeping them away from watching the cricket.
Instead of spending a day shopping with your pal, husband or mum have a day of ‘browsing’ to yourself. Pay close attention to what you discover and what you remember from your trip. This can help you define your own style without becoming a mash up of other people’s opinions. Ever noticed how even Kim Kardashian started to look like her mum? Stop shopping together! You’ll spend that time in fitting rooms trying on things that normally aren’t your style and that’s ok! because there isn’t that little voice saying ‘oh that’s not you’ no one to mould you by saying ‘oh this is SO you’ Don’t worry about finding the right style because style will find you!